How does it feel to have a sayang feeling towards someone who does not have the same feeling in return. Who should be blamed ? me ? us ? who ?
To me every single word has it own maksod tersirat. Terpulang pasa seseorang untu menilai perkataan itu sendiri. Sometimes words can be really meaningful as it cannot easily spoken out, sometimes to some other people words are just words. Is does not has meaning.
Like 'I love you' are words or phrase which has strong hidden meaning and also could give strong impact bila diluahkan dengan ikhlas.
How about 'suka', 'sayang','cinta' ?. Do they share the same meaning ?. How people define and differentiate these words ?
From my point of view, these 3 words carry each definition respectively. Okay, macam mane I could say that ? Apa yang bezanya ?
Define 'suka'. Perasaan 'suka' comes in random. It could be anywhere, anytime, any place. Based on what ? Based on nafsu. Don't get me wrong here, nafsu could be categorize in many ways. nafsu mata, nafsu deria, nafsu telinga adalah diantaranya. Cuba fikir balik, betul atau tidak ? perasan ataupun tidak sebenarnya ada possobility nya. 'suka; seseorang itu kerana rupanya yang menawan, kerana tubuh badannya yang cantik, kerana bibirnya yang seksi, kerana baunya yang harum, kerana matanya yang emnawan, kerana mulutnya yang manis dengan kata-kata.
Memang betol datangnya 'sayang' selepas 'suka'. Tapi not every of perasaan 'suka' itu menjadi 'sayang'. It could remain as 'suka' if good values are not present in feelings. The question is, what are the values ? Ikhlas is one of the good values. Define 'sayang'. 'sayang' is a level where a person feels the he or she has the responsibility to take a good care of her or his partner. Of what perspective ? akhlaknya, perasaannya, khilafnya, dan kehendaknya.
Without the value of Ikhlas 'sayang' are not something yang well defined by someone towards the partner.
Ikhlas terhadap menjaga hati dan perasaannya, Ikhlas memaafkan kesalahannya, ikhlas menjaga perhubungan bersamanya, Ikhlas menerima kekurangan dan kelebihan yang dia ada, ikhlas berada di sisinya, Ikhlas membuat dirinya gembira, Ikhlas melepaskan jika itu kehendak Allah. Manusia tidak lari dari kesusahan menerima perbuhan, itu diakui. Tapi jika ada Ikhlas dalam 'sayang; insyaallah hati mudah menerima ketentuan, cuma masa menjadi pengukur.
Define 'cinta'. A state where I shall call "the ultimate". a state or a level when someone has 'suka', 'sayang', Ikhlas, towards someone he or she head over heels in love. A really difficult state to reach but when someone has reach, hanya dia dan Dia mengetahui bertapa penting dan indahnya kehadiran partner nya dalam kehidupan seharian. Tiada tolak bagi, tiada ragu-ragu, tiada syak wasangka, tiada pembohingan. or to be conclude, Trust (kepercayaan).
So what state are you in now ?
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